This is the message I communicated to my kids today on the way to school, after my son told me about the rejection he received when he asked a peer group if… More
Do you remember in the movie City Slickers when the character, Ed, said his best and worst day were the same day? I relate to that in this way; that the things in my life that could have potentially destroyed me, have been the very things that have given me grit and determination to change. Those times have been the catalyst to eventually propel me into my best self and my best potential.
I have found that the humility I have learned in failure has been fertile ground for authenticity and given me a more meaningful way to relate to others.
I am sitting here this morning in my quiet place. The corner space in my room, next to a window that has been designated for prayer and meditation. I am reading Psalm 91, H.C.G Moule and Beth Moore. As I feel a cool, gentle breeze touching my shoulder after a humid, sticky night, I find that I am in very good company. The words that I am reading were written by people who have a deep understanding of failure. The constant theme is; what is impossible with man, is possible with God.
It is not only that God loves, knows and relates to us, in real time, through Jesus Christ…which is pretty mind blowing. It is that He can still prove inexhaustible and victorious in our mortal flesh today! It is also that, He and He alone, can set us free from the slavery of sin. And it is further, that because He has set His love upon us He will deliver us.
I am sitting here right now, drinking in His love and mercy. His absolute encouragement and inspiration toward me to lift my eyes up to the mountains from where my help comes from. The awesome overwhelmedness that He is a master at taking ashes and creating beautiful things out them. He really wants to do that for me and for you today and every day!
Thank you God that the things that the devil meant to destroy me have been turned for good in your hand. Thank you God for your Holy Spirit that leads me in to all truth and uses my life to help other’s with their’s. I am overwhelmed as I sit in your presence. I thank you for the other’s who have gone before me and have transparently encouraged me by their trials, struggles and failures. As difficult as the road has been, I thank you that you did not allow me to become hardened. You kept my heart soft and vulnerable, so that you could continue to teach me and I could continue to encourage others with the comfort I have received. And I thank you that you, and you alone, can grow the most beautiful creations out of seemingly impossible conditions.
I am walking this path of wholeness with you and I would love to hear from you today.
I have two friends who, right now, are going through tremendous times of pain. It is excruciating for me to watch, there is nothing….well very little, I can do for them.
My one friend has lost her closest brother to suicide. He was a highly decorated Marine in our United States Marine Corps. He went on from there to become a highly distinguished Navy Seal. He literally gave his life for our country and it’s people. For all of his post trauma, he could not re enter life when he got home. My heart breaks and my eyes swell even as I write. What do you do with this kind of pain?
My other friend has just given birth to a child with severe Spina Bifida. The baby’s back never closed while she was growing safe and snug in her mama’s womb. The amniotic fluid that serves as safety to typical babies became a daily threat to her nerves and muscles that were exposed to it every minute of every day. Before she even had a chance to suck at her mother’s breast, all six pounds of her was taken into life threatening surgery. The details of how you manage three other children and recover from your own, less than perfect, surgery while trying to care for this new life, is more than any one can communicate- but this is my friend’s life right now.
I know something of pain myself. I have had a lot of it in fact. Maybe that is why I can so deeply feel other’s pain when they experience it, which is a silver lining in living through a lot of distress. It is a silver lining because I can relate, be understanding and unselfish in terms of what I get out of that particular relationship. Many times people tend to want you to “snap to it” and “be yourself”, grieve quickly and move on. I am not a grieve quickly kind of person, but the flip side is that I can love in a deeper and more gratifying way too.
This was my prayer to my friend this morning who did not sleep because the baby had become swollen and was draining liquid from her brain and the doctors did not know why.
The brokenness is over whelming we can scarcely stand it, we want to jump out of our skin and flee! Give strength in the pain God and be the rock of salvation, the cornerstone, the hiding place of peace in the storm. Be the light in the darkness and the hope. You are our all in all. You are life. Give, be and have life through us, through the baby. Be somehow glorified and magnified in this and every situation. Amen.
F.B. Meyer ( Author and English Evangelist, working in Inner Cities around the turn of the century) said;
Go to God with your question; get direction from the light of His smile or the cloud of His refusal If only you will get alone, where the disturbance of self will does not intrude, where human opinions failed to reach- and if you will dare to wait there silent and expectant, through all around you insist on immediate decision or action- the will of God will be made clear: and you will have a new name in addition, a new conception of God, a deeper insight into the His nature and heart of love, which shall be for yourself alone- a rapturous experience, to abide as your precious possession forever, the rich reward for those long waiting hours.
There are times in life when we simply have to wait and while we wait, we have to endure and press forward in the moment. We all experience pain and the degree we measure our pain cannot be against the pain of another human being. We can run… I have done that. We can mask…I have been there as well. Or we can run and hide into wholeness. Into The One who takes the pain in real time and brings shalom in the waiting hours.
I am right here walking this path of wholeness with you and I would love to hear from you today.
My Life Coach suggested that I write down my top ten affirmations to combat the negative internal dialog that takes place from time to time in my mind.
These are ten affirmations that I have absolutely clung to in the last three years. They have shifted my thinking and propelled my life forward and I thought I would share them with you:)
- God is truth and He is invoking a blessing over my life and releasing me from my past.
- Christ is my life, He is my all and all. He and I are joined together in one Spirit. He lives in me now, not I, He is the fullness, the power, the strength and all I need and that is a fact now.
- I am God’s Beloved, He made me in eternity
- I am loved, accepted, forgiven and pleasing to God, therefore I can love accept, forgive and be pleasing to my self and others.
- God is removing cherished sin from my heart and making me free.
- I trust in God and I will let God rescue me. I delight in Him and He is delivering me.
- God has plans to prosper and not harm me, to give me a future and a hope.
- God is building me and I will be re built.
- In returning and rest I am being saved, in quietness and confidence is my strength.
- God’s statutes have been my songs in the house of my pilgrimage.
You have probably noticed that they all find their root in scriptures. The Bible says that:
12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. Hebrews 4:12
I believe there is something very deep that goes on in my mind and in a spiritual realm that we cannot see when we use scripture as a weapon for our daily battles.
I am right here walking this road of wholeness with you and I would love to hear from you today.
I told you last week that I was reorganizing my website to include my personal and business expansion into Life Coaching! Well it is finished, and I am excited to share that information with you!!
You will find more information about my new Coaching venture AND the link to Honest Aromas at: juliaallman.com !
I believe it captures the heart and passion that I have for helping people and moving them forward in life toward wholeness! Jessica at The Painted Square has done an amazing job! This has been a time of exhilaration and exhaustion for me! I was motivated through my Life Coach, Bill Cox, to accelerate my Certification process. He asked me to consider what I was waiting for in terms of moving forward with Certification and then coaching others myself? I really had no reason that I could think of to hold off, but I certainly had not planned on basically starting a new business this summer! I have started and have already had clients reach out to me to begin the Coaching Process! I plan to continue to build my certifications and become even more specialized in the area of Spiritual Director.
I have proved to myself that I am not stuck and I am not living in old mentalities that have not served me well through out my life! I am moving forward and growing into the person that God has created me to be in deeper ways.
‘I know the plans I have for you…to give you a future and a hope.‘ Jeremiah 29:11
Thank you for walking with and supporting me through all of my journeys and thank you for continuing to listen to my musings. I want to encourage you to take that step forward today into that healthy risk that you have been tossing around! There are fears and negative voices that will talk you right out of your dreams and keep you where you are. But I can tell you that fear is not faith and there are people who are out there, waiting for your help and who need you! I am walking this path of wholeness with you, I want to encourage you and would love to hear from you today!
Have a blessed weekend<3
Hello Everyone! I am very excited to share that I have been on another personal growth journey. Lately I have been working toward my Certification as a Spiritual Life Coach and have obtained my first Certificate through the American Association of Christian Counselors!
This is a motivating time for me and I wanted to share it with all of you, my friends who have walked my journey with me! I look forward to shifting what I currently do as an Aromatherapist, to be available to walk others through their times of uncertainty and light each step of my client’s path, to the life they were created to live! I will use Aromatherapy in my Coaching practice as an option, or a method, of creating much needed margin in my client’s life, as well as reducing transitional stress.
I will still be available for Aromatherapy Services, like I always have been, to offer the personalized aromatherapy products and education that my customers have come to expect from Honest Aromas!
I have been working on an improved website to tie all of this together, as I continue my education, to better communicate who I am and what my passion is. I love to engage in conversations, build relationships and offer others hope as they walk through confusing times of transition. I have had many in the community of faith, friends, family, counselors and a life coach help me through the dark times of my life and I want to offer that same support to others!!
” This isn’t the end of your story. It is the first chapter of your new novel.”
Thank you for always being so supportive and kind and thank you for cheering me on to the next chapter! I am right here walking this path of wholeness with you and would love to hear from you today!
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It is SO easy for all of us to look at what is wrong in any situation…being grumpy and complaining takes little effort. It is so easy to complain about the weather, the government, or another human being.
I have a son who is autistic. His brain apparently does not have a lot of serotonin or dopamine, because he struggles to look at the bright side of anything. We are attempting to teach him every day to recount the good things of the day, or happy memories he has experienced in the last 24 hours and let me tell you, it is grueling work! We all get very frustrated with him but do you know what? I find I can be the exact same way many times! I have this written in my dining room from Phil. 4:8; I challenge you to insert truth to all of these meditations, especially the situations you are experiencing right now that are clouded by doubt and frustration.
WHATEVER THINGS ARE TRUE- (Insert yours here) I wrote; I am loved, forgiven, accepted and pleasing to God.
WHAT EVER THINGS ARE NOBLE- Despite our struggles and set backs, my husband and I are attempting to build a holy union called marriage.
WHAT EVER THINGS ARE JUST- Our children are growing up into the gifts and talents that God purposes for their lives and we experience that as a family.
WHAT EVER THINGS ARE PURE- God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit give us access to themselves daily.
WHAT EVER THINGS ARE LOVELY- Children that I wasn’t supposed to have, green grass, hemlocks, flowers on my porch and in my hand.
WHAT EVER THINGS ARE OF GOOD REPORT- I made it through this day loving those around me!
WHAT EVER THINGS ARE VIRTUOUS- Trusting that God has plan and future for me that is good even when my circumstances can make me doubt. I don’t give up!
WHAT EVER IS PRAISEWORTHY- I have life, I have food, I have water, I have clothing and shelter.
So it says we are to MEDITATE ON THESE THINGS. It takes effort, energy and a changing of our minds- many times from what we see, to faith in what we don’t see. I love the HOPE that is in that!
God has given us the capacity to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. When we look at people who completely frustrate us, we must look at who they really are…who they were created to be, just as we want them to do for us. The renewing power we have been given is a super natural gift, the ability to look at something we see and yet have faith in something that we do not see is not of this world! We have access to this power and we must apprehend it with faith and a grateful heart.
I hope you take a few moments to do this exercise, just writing it out has been transforming to me! I am right here walking this path of wholeness with you and I would love to hear from you today!
I have known for a long time that I need a lot of space for myself to be quiet, read, and pray to be the person I was created to be. God rested on the 7th day and Jesus often retreated to a quiet place, why do we think we can just keep motoring through hour after hour, day after day?! This morning, I was reading a John Maxwell devotional and John takes 20% of his time- roughly 3 hours a day, to schedule nothing. Doing the math, that adds up to 6 days a month and 72 days a year!! He calls this Essential Time Off. It allows his mind to be quiet and re focus on the things that are in front of him or be present for his family. He says that he is much more efficient with this un- scheduled time, scheduled in, than he would be with out it.
I have come to find this true again and again. No one is going to provide this margin to you or I. Others will keep taking our time if we let them and this concept of creating space takes great intentionality. Our world and our lives are so complex, we need scheduled times of peace. I just enjoyed 3 days off and it was great to put demands on hold while I spent precious time with my family. When I get back into my schedule, I will continue to have a few hours off every morning to focus on who I really am and what purposes I am here for.
In seasons when I have been really over committed, I find that just one more thing, even if it is seemingly insignificant or mundane, can make me implode if I am not having sufficient quiet time. This time ultimately allows me to release creativity and stop to think about, and address, the details of my life- something that simply cannot be done on the run. This time also re aligns me with who I really am not just the roles I fill for others. If Jesus needed time to rest and listen to His Father, I am sure there is abundant wisdom to realize that we need it even more!
I am right here walking this path of wholeness with you and I would love to hear from you today!