Put Your Shirt On! Singing Telegrams, Balloons and Triggers.

I wrote this story last summer and never posted it. The recent heat reminded me of it and I dug it out of my drafts- hope you enjoy!

It may be the heat that is getting to me (It has been relentless in Northwest Pennsylvania), so I want to prepare you! I am a little off topic today and this may not be your cup of iced tea! I am attempting to relay a potentially life threatening and sketchy story in a humorous way. That might sound strange, but with very close friends I naturally present situations that cause me fear and anger with a side of humor. It is how I process some things.  But I understand this material may be a trigger for some readers which is why I am adding this disclaimer.

On to the story…

I had an epiphany today! I realized that guys who don’t wear shirts in public creep me out! Whenever I would  see a man  without a shirt on this summer, I would say out loud; “put your shirt on”!! My family has been perplexed, asking me, “why does this socially acceptable,  lack of clothing bother you so much?”!

It hit me today. I drove past one of those boxy type vehicles like a Kia, Soul, and there was a man driving it who appeared to be naked because all I could see was bare skin from the window up.  Double take!! Ok, Julia, breathe, it’s ok, I said to myself. He is probably really warm….it is 90 plus degrees out and further more, he is probably fully dressed where it matters! Again, I ask myself why this bothers me so. And then it came to me.

I was about 19 years old and my full time job was working for a Singing Telegram Company as a character singer. Funny, huh?! It was a really fun and harmless job. Well, while I thought it was great, my mom on the other hand worried about me constantly. (Just for the record, I would NEVER LET MY DAUGHTER DO THIS JOB!!!) At the time, I was just so excited that I had a full-time job getting paid for singing, danger  never really occurred to me! Every day I got to use my singing abilities, be creative and brighten people’s day with a gargantuan bouquet of over sized balloons and I actually made a very good living at it! It was the late 90’s, before the invention of the cell phone!

Every day, I had a list of addresses to go to, costumes to wear and balloons to deliver. On my list that day was a residential party during the afternoon, dressed as a Modest French Maid.  The middle of the afternoon dressed as a French Maid was a little peculiar, first alarm.   Usually, The Maid, was requested for large weekend parties thrown by wives for their aging husbands!

So, I found the street I was looking for and pulled my car up a little past the house address where this “party” is. I did notice there were not very many cars parked on the street at all. Even for a surprise party, you notice some amount of cars parked down the street. That was the second alarm that I blew through.

I gather my balloons and feather duster, and head off to the front door of the house. I quietly knock on the door because I do not know if this is a surprise party or not. The door opens and there is a very large man filling the screened door. This screen door had aluminum that went up to the chest of this man so I could see his; you guessed it, bare chest and his head, but could not see anything from his chest down.  Again, that was odd, but gosh darnit, I proceeded! (I am shaking my head and rolling my eyes as I write this…just can’t believe I actually continued with this telegram!)

In my French character, I spoke my scripted salutation and the man proceeded to let me in. He opened his door for me in such a way that he hid himself behind it until I walked into the room and he shut the door and was standing behind me at this point blocking the door.

I know this story is going from humorous to scary and I understand if you need to leave. These are traumatic memories, but this one ends on good note for me. 

So, when I get into the house, I am in a living room with two large couches, a few chairs, a TV and NO OTHER PEOPLE. Nothing that says, there’s a party goin’ on right here! There was a surprise and that is for sure, but the surprise was for me! So, that man that let me in… he is still behind me. Still naïve and hoping for the best, I turn around to see why the guy didn’t enter the room. And what to my wondering eyes should appear? But a 6’2”, 350 pound man and ….reign deer?…no, they would have been great! No, no Reign Deer…just a diaper. That big naked man was wearing, a diaper!

OH, my mother was so right. This will be the day that I die! This is what she was talking about; I totally get her right now! Seriously, my life started to flash before my eyes…that life flashing before your eyes stuff really happens! My throat started to close and my heart started to pound and I was like, I am going to freakin’ (we didn’t say “freakin’ back then, but if we did, that is what I would have been saying!!) pass out and no one is going to ever find my body.

PRAISE GOD FROM WHOM ALL BLESSINGS FLOW, because someone who I choose to call THE HOLY SPIRIT slapped me across the face (so to speak) and said; Julia! Think quickly, do not get out of character and arm yourself! My mind quickly started to think of what I had on my 119 pound person that I could harm this 350 pound man with. Back in the 90’s we wore shoes called “spikes” and I had them on my feet and I thought, if I need to, I will take this shoe off and stick this heal in the temple of your scum bag head! As I was plotting his demise, I kept on with my French accent’. Oh monsieur….why don’t you sit down on the couchI would like to sing a song to you! He started to move! He headed for the couch, it was working! I kept up with my nasal oh’s and monsieur’s and my name is Fifi! He was buying it and settling in for some entertainment. No, fast moves were going to work; he would have only had to grab me with one arm to overpower me. After giving him his balloons and waving my feather duster around a few times, I slowly started backing up toward the door. I got right in front of the door and I told him I had a present for him. When I was sure he wasn’t going to get out of that couch quickly, I said, “Oh, monsieur! I left your present right outside!” Before he could move, I opened the door, closed the door, ran down the street, got in to my car and locked the door. Heart pounding, I started the car and sped away, not looking back.

I said; “Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus!” all the way to a Convenience store. After I parked and breathed and thanked God for sparing my life, I called my office on a payphone and told the dispatcher what had happened. The secretary was mortified and concerned for my safety, called the police and told me to go home for the day.

A few weeks later while I was watching the news one evening, I saw a story on that diapered man! He was arrested for inappropriate behavior at a school playground. Do you think?!  When I saw that news story, I reflected on how grateful to God I was that nothing harmful happened to me, that day, while I was at his house.   I was also grateful that no harm came to the  school children and that he eventually got caught and was put in jail.

In regards to Singing Telegrams, I changed how I did things after that day! I no longer went to any residential parties alone. Period.  And even though my costumes were modest ones, I did not wear the French Maid or the Mae West costume anymore!! I stuck to clowns, tuxedos, viking women and 7 foot bananas! I became much more prepared and aware of my surroundings and much more discerning over all. 

I am glad that I have finally made the connection between shirtless men and the traumatic event that happen to me so many years ago. In writing this story out, it seems to me that the connection should have been a no- brainer. But many times a day we can experience things that we strongly react to because they have some kind of tie to a past experience. I believe that we should pause and get curious with God about why we respond the way we do sometimes and what is at the root of it so that we can work through it and experience freedom.

There are always lessons to be learned and ways to grow through every encounter in life. Now that I have worked through the thoughts and feelings that surround shirtless men, I experience less shock and frustration when I see one! I can talk myself through the situation instead of being stuck in the temporary emotions …and maybe even chuckle a bit:)

How My Business Started at A Festival On A Summer Day

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I am sitting here in the sun of my bedroom window, listening to the melody  of the birds and taking in the cool, cleansing air of the morning.

I have a lot to do today. I will be going downstairs to my lab to blend oils for an order that was placed by a local store that I would like to ship today. I will also be creating and organizing all of the products I will be taking to my first festival of the season!

When I received my certification in Aromatherapy three years ago, my daughter suggested that we launch out in business by offering my knowledge at one of my favorite Herb Festivals. I blended a bunch of products that I felt were successful through the case studies that I was responsible to conduct while in school, and she went to work on branding my business! I was hoping I would sell something, and was hoping I could engage someone with my interest and passion in holistic health, I was not prepared for what followed!

 

To date, The Herb Festival in Cook Forest, PA, is one of my most successful festivals! That first festival three years ago showed me that I had something people were interested in investing in, but there is a whole other perspective. I was not just an Aromatherapist, or business owner, I became a fellow vendor! It is an exciting and, at times, exhilarating position. I could not have considered what amazing networking would take place and the friendships that would blossom through this experience. This experience has been a whole new facet and extension of what makes Julia, Julia!

…And the Attendees! I have met so many people, heard so many stories, and connected in ways that have built a caring customer base and vehicle to teach the chemistry of Aromatherapy. I would not be able to sell things that I didn’t believe in, just for the sake of selling. I care about people and I want to help them in ways that I can, and that is the heart behind Honest Aromas.

This particular venue is my favorite. I love the woods, I get grounded in the forest, there is a part of me that awakens and becomes alive! I love the smell of moss and earth, the fragrance of silty creeks and rivers, and the utter calm walking under hemlocks.  And many of the people who attend the festivals that I participate in are just my kind of people! They are, by and large, interested in health, natural entrepreneurs and creative souls…my tribe!

 

So, this morning I have an anxious excitement! I have a lot to prepare for and a transition to make from school mode into festival mode. This season has less accountability and more flexibility, but I need to kick up my self government to get necessary things done! I thank you all for your support and patronage, thank you for contributing to my personal and business growth, and  I look forward to seeing and meeting you this summer at the Honest Aromas tent!

Lime-Mint Lip Balm!

My daughter, and lovely assistant, Gabrielle and I made a new summer Lip Balm! Our Lip Balm is made with Coconut oil, Local Bees wax and Raw honey, blended with pucker-up lime (not photo-sensitive) and a hint of mint to protect those lips of yours this summer!

As you can see, making lip balm is not too difficult at all and is a fun summer activity! But if you would like to save yourself all the expense, we would love for you to try ours…we think you will love it!!

 

Throwback: Amazing Helichrysum

Happy Fourth of July! Hope you all have a safe and happy holiday.

Last year at this time we featured a remarkable essential oil: Helichrysum (Helichrysum italicum). I got a bad burn over the Independence Day holiday, and I used helichrysum hydrosol with amazing results!

Visit Pompeii Organics for information on helichrysum essential oil and hydrosol.

Read the text of the original post to find out all about this wonderful plant:

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Just a little edgy humor 🙂 In all honesty, helichrysum (Helichrysum italicum) is an amazing oil for all kinds of issues! (Our information today comes from the Aromatic Wisdom Institute’s information on helichrysum.)

The herb is analgesic, which means it helps relieve pain; it regenerates the cells; and it heals the skin, making it wonderful for any kind of wound. This past weekend, I got a bad burn on my ankle. The skin blistered up and it was awful! Right away I sprayed on some helichrysum hydrosol, as I’ve done every day since then. The burn has gotten dramatically better every day!

Helichrysum is also anti-inflammatory, anti-spasmodic, and anti-allergenic. It is an effective anti-depressant, being emotionally balancing and very helpful to heal deep emotional trauma.

One of the best things about helichrysum is that it is non-toxic and non-irritating, making it very versatile. It is great blended with other oils, especially arnica for pain relieving and bruise healing properties.

Is your interest in helichrysum piqued? We sell the oil itself and we feature it in blends like our joint and muscle lotion! We love using this amazing plant and we hope you learn to love it too!

Have you ever used helichrysum oil or hydrosol? What do you think? We want to hear from you!

Farmer’s Markets and Small Shoppes;-)

Don’t forget to visit us at the Oil City Farmer’s Market. Monday’s and Thursday’s from 9-4pm in front of the Library.

Or at any of our 3 locations in Franklin at Bindas Lane Alpacas,  Meadville, at @The Bank,  or Beaver at Restyle to pick up your favorite Honest Aromas products! We also have our on line store! Buy some Everything Summer Bug, Mosquito, or Tick or Anti-Itch Spray TODAY!!

We want to hear from you! Enjoy Your Weekend<3

Everything Summer!

20160609_171818These products are already “flying off” the shelves! (get it, bug spray…flying!!!!eh-hem, sorry;-)

 

Get yours today! I used the tick spray while I was in a National Forest last weekend, and I had NO Issues what so ever with pests! YAY! I never have to buy “bug spray” the rest of my life AND I will not be harming the environment!!

We have this at Binda’s Lane Alpacas on Elk Street in Franklin and we will have it soon at Paul Hess Energi @ the Bank in Meadville. I carry it at the Farmer’s market in Oil City on Mondays and Thursdays from 9-4. You can also purchase it from our online store or via email if you are not in the area.

Get stocked and stay bug free this summer!!We want to hear from you today!!