Do Not Worry

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I was having a conversation with our oldest daughter last evening. She was telling me that it is accepted as normal for Millennials to be stressed and anxious! She was sharing some realizations with me about who she is and what she has learned about her self and I was relating things I have learned about my self and how we have some similarities.

I am so happy for her that she is learning not to be stressed and anxious at a young age and she is accepting of her self in areas that she feels the culture saying; “press through, try harder, suck it up”! She is learning where to let go and accept her limitations and seek peace in stead of striving in her life.

I have been re reading Dale Carnegie’s book; How to Stop Worrying and Start Living! A co worker gave me this book to read when I was 18 years old and working in a dead end job. I didn’t have a relationship with The Lord the first time I read it, but the bits of scripture that were peppered through the book made me curious enough to read The Bible.

Carnegie gives three steps for eradicating worry that were devised by Willis H. Carrier, the engineer who launched the air-conditioning industry, through his own journey with anxiety. He gave multiple examples of business people who have used these steps with life altering success. Even those who were on their death beds with stomach ulcers and other health concerns.

Carrier hailed  this as the Magic Formula for Solving Worry Situations: 

  1. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
  2.  Prepare to accept it if you have to.
  3.  Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

I was presented with the opportunity to use these steps this past weekend! There were some relationship issues that were troubling me and I used this method to help myself deal with the situation. I also had to agree, that in the past when I was in a huge trial, that this is exactly what I had to do to move through it!

Jesus said: (Matthew 6:26) “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?

There have been times when Jesus Spoke clearly and directly to me regarding turbulent times and told me to look straight at Him and not the waves that were crashing all around me.  I know He doesn’t  want us to worry and be stressed. He wants us to trust Him.  I find, like Willis Carrier, that acceptance of the situation is a must if we want to move forward in peace. And acceptance requires thinking about the situating, counting the cost, and accepting my part or failure in any given situation.

Back to the conversation I had with my daughter, I was so grieved that so many young people feel hopeless and helpless, paralyzed by stress. Of course in my Aromatherapy business, I have designed my Calm Down and Lighten Up roller bottle for just that sort of support. I am also aware that there is an anxiety epidemic in the world that play out in many  mental health and behavioral problems. Debilitating diagnosis like,  Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, is not just reserved for those who have been in war like situations. So, I felt so inspired to write and bring a glimmer of hope and help to some one else who may be struggling with this 21st Century “disease”.

Get knowledge! And in all your getting, get Understanding! I pray for each of you as I pray for myself, that we would not worry and we would have The Peace that surpasses all understanding to guard our hearts and minds. Happy Monday, have a peace filled week<3


Sweet Marjoram!


This little sweetie is a new favorite of mine!! It is relaxing and it is great for sore muscles. Of course it has tons of therapeutic value, here are few of the properties listed on Pompeii’s site;

*At a Glance Sweet Marjoram gives us stress relief (calming), loosens tight muscles and cramps (think restless legs), and helps turn down the mind (for insomnia blends), and is warming.

I have been receiving some great recipes from Aromahead’s Andrea Butje and here is what she has to say about this  little bottle of marvelous!

Sweet Marjoram loves to experience the world through its sense of touch.

It likes to wear organic clothing that feels soft on its skin. Its sheets are 600 thread count. It gives itself face mask treatments twice a week, and once a week it either soaks in mineral-rich warm water or does a full-body mud wrap. Sweet Marjoram also loves to feel the weather on its skin—the soft touch of the wind, rain, and sun make Sweet Marjoram happy to be alive.

So Sweet Marjoram goes out of its way to take care of its skin. Its favorite thing about that? Blends that take care of its skin, feel good on its skin!

Here’s a body butter that Sweet Marjoram makes by hand and uses daily to moisturize and protect its precious skin.

Sweet Marjoram’s Sweet n’ Soft Skin Butter

  • 1 oz (28 g) beeswax (Cera alba)
  • 2 oz (60 ml) jojoba (Simmondsia chinensis)
  • 2 oz (56 g) cocoa butter (Theobroma cacao)
  • 2 oz (56 g) coconut oil (Cocos nucifera)
  • 26 drops Sweet Marjoram (Origanum majorana)
  • 16 drops Geranium (Pelargonium × asperum)
  • 32 drops Sweet Orange (Citrus sinensis)

You’ll need four 2 oz (60 ml) glass jars for this blend. It makes 7 oz (210 ml) of body butter, and I find it’s helpful to break it up into smaller jars (the smaller jars are easier to find).

Start by setting up the Stovetop Melting Method. Put a Pyrex measuring cup in a soup pot that’s ¼ full of gently simmering water. Then follow these directions in order:

  1. Melt the beeswax in the Pyrex.
  2. Add the jojoba and remelt. You can stir gently with a glass stirring rod or the handle of a stainless steel spoon.
  3. Add the cocoa butter and melt.
  4. Add the coconut oil and melt.
  5. When all of the ingredients are melted together, remove the blend from heat and add the essential oils, stirring gently.
  6. Pour the blend into the jars.

I hope you love this body butter blend! The base—just the carriers without the essential oils—is the same recipe I use for most of the body butter blends in my book, The Heart of Aromatherapy. (I am so excited, the book has surpassed 100 reviews on Amazon!) You can find the book at Aromatics International.

We are happy to carry Sweet Marjoram at Honest Aromas and we have been experimenting with new custom blends utilizing it’s amazingness! Give us a call we would love to get some into your hands today!



What do you do when you run into someone you would really rather not see?

We all find ourselves in situations where we would rather not run into that person. Maybe it’s just because we’re having an off day and would honestly prefer not to run into any person! Or maybe an unfortunate circumstance happened, and there is still some friction in the relationship. Or perhaps, the problem is within yourself, and you haven’t made amends in your heart toward that person.

I’ve had many such opportunities in the past year, and like it or not, I’ve had to face the music more than once. In my   situation, I caused harm. I asked for forgiveness and some of the people I hurt have extended it to me. Others are on their own journey with it, and I respect that. But what do you do if you come face to face with someone and you would prefer not to?

Here are some of the things I have put into practice when met with these uncomfortable situations:

  • I breathe deeply through my nose and out through my mouth.
  • I release endorphins and serotonin by giving a big, beautiful smile! ( Or in some cases; gently smile, nod and in both cases, keep walking.)
  • I lift my thoughts to God and choose to love Him most.
  • I turn my thoughts to my husband and the journey we have invested a lot of time and energy into.
  • I turn my thoughts to my children and how I want to support them and be the best Julia I can be for them.
  • I realize if I always avoid awkward situations, I make a practice of hiding, and I do not want to hide.
  • I feel the pain. I acknowledge that this is reality, and it hurts!
  • I realize the next time I see this person it will not hurt me as much as it does today. Every day I am getting stronger.
  • I choose to be love, be grace, and be beautiful.
  • I ask the Holy Spirit to fill me and use me right where I am.
  • I remind myself that I am forgiven, accepted, and pleasing to God, and that this is the basis of my self-worth, no matter what others may choose to think about me.


There are times when you run into someone you would rather not see, and it’s really hard to recover from it, even if you’ve taken some steps ahead of time to prepare. If this happens, you may need to take several days to recover, and that’s OK. Some difficult situations are, well, difficult. Maybe they simply overwhelm your mind. Don’t beat yourself up. And if complete downtime is required, find ways to find times for yourself where nothing is expected of you so you can refresh.

Facing a situation is refocusing your thoughts.

I have followed these steps over and over in my mind when I run into a difficult situation with a person I would rather not see. I realize that in the long run, going through the situation is better than avoiding the situation. Then I give God what I can’t control, knowing He can work all things for good, and what’s more, He wants to!

I hope these ideas are helpful to you, as well. Sometimes being healthy means knowing yourself and your limits, and it means being thoughtful enough to plan ahead for your own mental and emotional well-being. Life is a journey, and it’s okay to make little maps to help yourself navigate it. 🙂

What are some ways you refocus your thoughts in a difficult situation? I want to hear from you today!

Traumatic Stress

Lavandula-angustifolia-or-common-lavender We can all have stress. Just living in this modern world can produce a stress like humans have not experienced thus far. Cell Phones, Computers,  TV’s and News, jobs, terror…….all in our face 24/7.

But there are some situations in your life that can produce such a level of stress that you can not easily “file” and sort out in your brain. You may try, but find you have reoccurring dreams, flash backs or un explained panic. It is possible you are experiencing a form of Post Traumatic Stress.

I know I have tended to think of that only in terms of the military. But there have been 2 times in my life that I have been diagnosed with it and I have had a “seemingly” normal- non military life!

You may have witnessed/ or have been involved in a bad accident. You may have been a care giver for a sick child or elderly person for an extended period of time. You may have gone through a significant relationship issue- separation, divorce, addiction, etc. Or maybe have been the victim of some kind of abuse.  describes Post Traumatic  symptoms like this;

PTSD Symptoms

There are three main classes of PTSD symptoms (source):

  1. Re-experiencing: intrusive memories, sleep disturbance, dissociation, intense anger or anxiety at memory
  2. Avoidance: avoidance, detachment, estrangement, numbing, “shutting down”
  3. Hyperarousal: nightmares, irritability, sleep disturbance, anger, aggression, impulsivity, panic attacks, exaggerated startle response

If you experience these symptoms you should take some care and time to think about where they may have originated. Definitely pray! “Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Romans 12:2 And seek out the help of a Licensed Therapist. Not all counselors are created equal! So get some feedback from others who have been there, and have received help and are able to move on with their lives.

I am currently using a blend to help with traumatic stress in my life. Lemon (uplifting) with Lavender (calming). I blend it into an inhaler and use as needed. You can apply this combination into a diffuser. You can also blend 3 drops of each into a carrier oil and apply…but do not do it on skin exposed to sun as lemon is photo toxic.

Let me know your thoughts on stress! Remember I do consultations and would be happy to make YOU a personal blend! Click on “Consultation” on our On-Line Store! We want to hear from you today:-)




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Healthy living in every way-Spiritually, physically, in our minds!

I am so thankful today. I am thankful that God has given me wisdom to change un healthy habits to healthy ones. I am thankful I can continue to morph in my mind…to exchange stinking thinkin’- for life, hope, and healthy thoughts.I am thankful that I can yield more and more to God to hear His voice and not have to strive and be as stressed. I am thankful that I can get up and take a long walk, or do a yoga routine every day. And all of those things, in synergy, open our hearts and minds to be able to embrace the day and face struggles with more courage.

Add some essential oils to your day! Inhale some citrus to lift your mood. Take a walk today instead of having that caffeine- even if it is to the mail box ! Pray! Are you doing the same thing every day and expecting a different result? I am here to encourage you to take a step in a different (but healthy) direction!

I want to hear from you today!