Turning 50- Beauty Much Deeper Than Skin.


                                                                                     facial by Doug at Simply Skin in Clarion, PA



Wow! I used to think people were so old when they were fifty! I mean, in 5 years I could live in a 55 and over community like my parents used to…that’s so weird!

Here I am, it is what it is, I am what I am! I went to the Chiropractor the other day and he said; “Aren’t you so glad you started taking care of your self when you did, it shows! You don’t look older than 35”! I love that man!!

Seriously, I have learned that I do care about how I look but over the years it has come with much more balance than obsession. Many years ago a wise Christian woman told me that a smile was the best thing any woman could ever do for her face- a free face lift! I have been practicing that ever since!

I have recently been thinking about what I have learned over my life. In the last three years alone, I have learned more about myself than I could ever convey.  But some high-lights have been; Aromatherapy, Human Behavior  and Autism. I have done this  through classes and certification, living with my son, working in the field and personally working with therapists.

After playing the drums and piano most of my life, three years ago I started learning guitar  and returned to taking voice lessons again.  I have been working on pieces that are so challenging, I want to scream and throw them in the fire place!! I hate how uncomfortable and irritated change can make me feel, yet I desire to grow, and that takes incredible effort.

The most profound lesson I think I have learned in the last three years can be best conveyed by a story in Shauna Niequist’s book, Present Over Perfect. Shauna conversed with a man on a ferry ride  and he shared with her that he was skilled at making people “feel loved in an instant.” His business started out with genuine love and creativity and he loved spreading the message every where he spoke- he was extremely successful. He gave every one he met his best attentiveness and energy! But along the way, “he lost the ability to demonstrate real love to the woman and children who were at home”, and he eventually lost them.

The story of this man angers me because I have been the man, and I have also been charmed by the man! The story scares me because we can “loose” something we once had.  We save our best and turn on our energy for those who do not know us so well, not those closest to us. We get very good at being charming with relationships that are in the outer sphere because we simply do not want to express more effort learning better tools for intimacy at home.  I almost lost my soul in such an experience and I know of many who have. That is a very important lesson to learn, and yet, I am keenly aware of how capable I am of repeating it.

That made me think of a weighty scripture that has always grabbed me. Proverbs 31:30-31 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.

Fearing the Lord will produce something of value, something lasting, pure and true. It has benefit, not just to the person who fears the Lord, but to others who have been recipients of the good works. It multiplies and ripples out in ways that make others want to give thanks for that person. In contrast, when we are charming and deceitful, it only serves self, scratches the momentary itch but at the same time makes self hungry for more, and can potentially ripple into a wake of destruction and ruin.

I am 50. I have been changing, growing and learning life altering lessons among other things. I want to be beautiful…but in ways that are much deeper than skin. In ways that are life giving and nurturing, today and forever<3




The Aroma!!


Many times when I am near someone, or give some one a hug they will lean in a little closer or hold me a little longer. I usually hear; “you smell SO good!” We also hear that about our home! I am so blessed! I get to be surrounded by these wonderful, healthful oils every day and much of our fabric and clothes have the permanent fragrance!!

There is a scientific, chemical back up to all of this. It is not the fake chemical per-fumy smell that I so often come across in public, it’s natural, earthy and healthy smelling. Although some people may still have allergies to certain essential oils, most fragrance sensitivities are caused by artificial fragrance chemicals. Pure essential oils have a chemical make up with a variety of health benefits! Sedation, alertness, calming, anti-viral and anti-inflammatory are just a few of the amazing benefits of essential oils.

The aroma is truly Honest! Un adulterated and pure. My vehicle smells the same way!! Of course I use the products too! Body and hand lotions or oils with my favorite blends, and my face oil for wrinkles smells pretty amazing! All of them containing a variety of health benefits, emotional support and  balance.

Oh, The Aromas! What essential oils do you use? We want to hear from you today!

Add No Sorrow To it


The Blessing of The Lord Makes One Rich and Adds No Sorrow To It…The Holy Spirit spoke that to me one morning upon waking. It was very quiet but definitely The Spirit leading me into all truth. I knew what He was speaking to me about. My flesh was tempting me in a completely different direction that day. I kept repeating what the Spirit was saying hoping that, that in itself, would keep me from making opposite choices. I even looked it up in the Bible (Proverbs 10:22) because, although I knew it was in Proverbs some where, I wasn’t sure which verse.  If only I had headed that still, small voice, but I eventually did not and it cost me enormous emotional pain unlike any thing I have yet experienced. Such Sorrow! Such grief! Months of mental anguish and a lesson learned in such an excruciating pain.

I was reading The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson this morning and it reminded me of this very verse. “Sin will complicate your life in negative ways. The blessing of God will complicate your life in positive ways.” “Blessings will complicate your life in ways God wants it complicated.”  So even though it Is truth that No Sorrow will be added to your life…it doesn’t mean it will not be complicated in all ways that bless!!

We have a very complex and complicated marriage!! But The Blessing of The Lord is upon it, and He most definitely is using these situations to expose the deep things He wants to teach us through it. When we try to make a left turn, or  make our own plan to get out of or around that “Blessed Complication”, we add so much brokenness and sorrow. I know, I have been there.

Do you ever read my blogs and think; she rarely shares on Aromatherapy?!! Well, although I am an Aromatherapist, I am holistic in the way I think. Mental, emotional, physical and spiritual all work together and we need to consider them all if we want to be healthy! I want to encourage you in the deep things of life! I want to remind you not to add sorrow to your blessed complexities!! And I want to keep encouraging you to move forward wherever you are in the process<3



autism quote

I think this is a great reminder for all of us, not just how we see the people in our lives, but in how we look at ourselves! Perspective matters.

I’ve been meditating on the fact that I am deeply loved, fully accepted, completely forgiven, and fully pleasing to God. I can often forget that when I see myself through the filter of my mistakes. But if I look at myself through that truthful perspective, I tend to see others through it as well.

Perspective and perception have even more to do with holistic health than what supplements and essential oils you use. You can be literally “transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2).

So today, take some time to encourage those around you in their strengths. Think about people’s strengths and tell them about it! We all get encouraged when we hear those things.

What are your strengths? What are your loved ones’ strengths? We want to hear from you today!

I’m Giving it Up!


Several weeks ago, I told you that I was dealing with some anemia issues. My doctor told me he was going to put me on a diet that I wasn’t going to like!! So, I consulted with a friend who went to this same doctor and she gave me the news….No Coffee!!:-(

Coffee has been my friend for a long time!! I started drinking it when I was 12 to get my self going in the morning for school! I am a singer and in the “old days”, I sang late at night into the early morning hours and coffee (or caffeine pills) were my go to.

Later in life when I was married,  I had had a few miscarriages and I felt very lead of the Lord not to drink coffee. I said “God, if this is you, YOU will have to give me the grace to give up this vice.” I felt that I did have amazing strength not to give into my favorite indulgence and 9 months later, I gave birth to a beautiful, tiny girl<3

A similar thing happened recently. As I said, I had consulted a friend who told me coffee was not on this diet, and I said; “God, please give me the grace to give this up if it is harming me.” He has, and although I have had a couple sips here and there the last 3 weeks while going through detox, I am definitely making a new habit!!

I am not saying coffee is bad, There are some definite health benefits of coffee as well as tea. But it isn’t some thing that is benefiting me right now and I am sure there are some of you out there who know that’s true for you as well.

I have switched over to an array of herbal teas and I drink more Kombucha too. I definitely do not have the lows in the afternoon that I used to have and I feel more emotionally balanced….that definitely makes it easier to keep going.

So, that’s where I am on my journey right now, any one out there on the same journey? I am right here walking it with you:-)



Here is a blog that we posted several months ago. We wanted to share it again to encourage you this Wednesday!
We would love to help your perception by meeting with you for an individual consultation! We care about you:-)

Honest Aromas

2-ppl-perception“When we perceive our lives as having no value, purpose or significance, we become miserable.” The Search For Significance- Robert McGee

Well this must be an epidemic then, because the world is full of miserable people…..I can even be one myself at times!

This will not be a lengthy blog, but just some thing to think about today as we start the week. If you take an irritability or frustration back to it’s core emotion….what is your perception? What are you believing about that situation- true or not so true?

The truth is, every one of us has value, purpose and significance and the way we perceive that shows up in our lives. You were created for some thing great. You were created for a purpose. You matter to those around you. No matter how bad things are, there is a way to see beyond it, you just may not…

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As I was getting ready this morning, I decided I needed a new perspective! I decided to look these up and was encouraged as I read them. I hope they are an encouragement to you as well!

Honest Aromas

autism quote

I think that is a good reminder for all of us for any one in our life! Even when we look at ourselves! Perspective matters.

I have been meditating on the fact that I am; Deeply Loved, Fully Accepted, Completely Forgiven, and Fully Pleasing to God. I can forget that when I see myself through the filter of my mistakes. But if I look at myself through that truthful perspective, I can tend to see others through it as well.

Perspective and perception have even more to do with holistic health than what supplements and essential oils you use. You can be transformed by the renewing of your mind. 

So, today, take some time to encourage those around you in their strengths….think about other’s strengths and tell them about it! We all get encouraged when we hear those things.

Have a great Thursday, we want to hear from you today!

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