Coincidence….

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Alcoholics Anonymous has a saying; Coincidence is God’s way of doing something and still remaining anonymous! I agree with that! When we visited a forest a few weeks ago, it was apparent there had been a significant storm in the park with an amazing amount of trees that had fallen over forest stairways and paths. I was pondering the timing of our trip, comparing  the trees that had fallen over all of the paths against those that had been sawed away for us to get through,maybe even just days before. I said; “it is not coincidence that this storm happened when it did and we chose the weekend that we did. If we had come any earlier, the devastated paths would have made it impossible to navigate.”

I felt a similar thing happened yesterday at a festival I worked, at attending my Honest Aromas booth. God had orchestrated certain people to be there at certain times in my day and I would even say He had prepared me a head of time through a dream the night before and a cell message on my phone from a friend sharing a spiritual insight. It didn’t feel like an orchestration while I was navigating it, it felt like freakish coincidence in the way we all normally define that word. But as I processed the entirety of the scenario through the evening, there was no doubt that HE is at work and that this was another step on the journey I have been on toward Him and His purposes in my life and in the lives of others.

It is easy to react. It takes patience and self-control to say; “God what are you up to? What are you doing in this situation?” But that is exactly what He gives us self-control and patience for!! I am learning (slowly, very slowly!) how not to be over emotional in my emotions! Yes, I have a lot of emotions and I have always been a very caring person, but I do not need to be ruled by my emotions. I can choose how to respond and that is truly all we have power to do. So this set of circumstances gives me and opportunity to feel a broad range of emotions and ask God what He is up to, and sit and rest in His Doing something in the situation! He is up to something in your life as well and it is no coincidence;-) Tell us what’s going on in your life, we want to hear from you today!

 

Refocusing

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What do you do when you run into someone you would really rather not see?

We all find ourselves in situations where we would rather not run into that person. Maybe it’s just because we’re having an off day and would honestly prefer not to run into any person! Or maybe an unfortunate circumstance happened, and there is still some friction in the relationship. Or perhaps, the problem is within yourself, and you haven’t made amends in your heart toward that person.

I’ve had many such opportunities in the past year, and like it or not, I’ve had to face the music more than once. In my   situation, I caused harm. I asked for forgiveness and some of the people I hurt have extended it to me. Others are on their own journey with it, and I respect that. But what do you do if you come face to face with someone and you would prefer not to?

Here are some of the things I have put into practice when met with these uncomfortable situations:

  • I breathe deeply through my nose and out through my mouth.
  • I release endorphins and serotonin by giving a big, beautiful smile! ( Or in some cases; gently smile, nod and in both cases, keep walking.)
  • I lift my thoughts to God and choose to love Him most.
  • I turn my thoughts to my husband and the journey we have invested a lot of time and energy into.
  • I turn my thoughts to my children and how I want to support them and be the best Julia I can be for them.
  • I realize if I always avoid awkward situations, I make a practice of hiding, and I do not want to hide.
  • I feel the pain. I acknowledge that this is reality, and it hurts!
  • I realize the next time I see this person it will not hurt me as much as it does today. Every day I am getting stronger.
  • I choose to be love, be grace, and be beautiful.
  • I ask the Holy Spirit to fill me and use me right where I am.
  • I remind myself that I am forgiven, accepted, and pleasing to God, and that this is the basis of my self-worth, no matter what others may choose to think about me.

 

There are times when you run into someone you would rather not see, and it’s really hard to recover from it, even if you’ve taken some steps ahead of time to prepare. If this happens, you may need to take several days to recover, and that’s OK. Some difficult situations are, well, difficult. Maybe they simply overwhelm your mind. Don’t beat yourself up. And if complete downtime is required, find ways to find times for yourself where nothing is expected of you so you can refresh.

Facing a situation is refocusing your thoughts.

I have followed these steps over and over in my mind when I run into a difficult situation with a person I would rather not see. I realize that in the long run, going through the situation is better than avoiding the situation. Then I give God what I can’t control, knowing He can work all things for good, and what’s more, He wants to!

I hope these ideas are helpful to you, as well. Sometimes being healthy means knowing yourself and your limits, and it means being thoughtful enough to plan ahead for your own mental and emotional well-being. Life is a journey, and it’s okay to make little maps to help yourself navigate it. 🙂

What are some ways you refocus your thoughts in a difficult situation? I want to hear from you today!

One Thing I Do…

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This picture was taken at one of my favorite parks in Pennsylvania, during an anniversary weekend with my husband this past fall. The picture paints a thousand words in my mind.

It was a significant weekend for us, because we had been separated prior to this trip. When we went there the year before, we did not think we would ever return there as a couple, and I did not even want to take any pictures to document our time there.

We have been through a lot in the last several years. Many things had taken a toll on our marriage and we both reached points where we really didn’t want to work at it any more.

When you are weak and tired and other seemingly exciting opportunities present themselves to you, it is almost impossible to resist (but it is not impossible). I made a lot of poor decisions during that flat time in our marriage.The ramifications could have been so much worse, but the consequences will never go away. I can only thank and praise God for His mercy and unfailing love to me.

When I look at this picture of the road in the woods, I can’t help but think of the words of Dan Fogelberg’s song, “Along the Road”:

Along the road
Your steps may tumble
Your thoughts may start to stray
But through it all a heart held humble
Levels and lights your way.

The Bible calls God’s Word “a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.” This is true, and this is how I got back onto the road.

Another exceptional truth is that, as long as we are looking back when we are trying to move forward, we will stumble. The apostle Paul had something transforming to say about this.

He was born a Roman and a Hebrew. Both those qualities gave him many rights, much authority and power. He lived during the time when the Christian church was just emerging, and by Jewish and civil law, he was zealous in the murders of people following Jesus. He then had a life-changing encounter with Christ and began to defend the faith. He now had great understanding and knowledge concerning both sides of the argument. He also had great understanding of forgiveness and mercy, and most Christians would look at him as a man who had “attained it” who had “made it,” who “got this”.

However, he saw it differently. In his letter to the Philippian church, he said, “Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected … I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead” (Phil 3:13 NKJV).

One thing I do: forget what is behind and reach for those things that are ahead! This is easier said than done. It is not easy to forget what you have done, especially when it has caused a great disturbance, not just in your life but in the lives of others as well. I think it is human nature to wallow in self-condemnation until we feel we’ve reached a sufficient penance. And some religions teach this. But this is not the way God deals with us; that is the way we humans deal with ourselves.

God is instantaneous in His forgiveness when we ask. God, through Jesus Christ, answers us with “Neither do I condemn you, go and sin no more” (John 8:11), “Though you sins are as scarlet, They shall be as white as snow”( Is. 1:18), “If he sins against you seven times in a day, and … returns to you, saying, ‘I repent’, you shall forgive him” (Luke 17:4), “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (I John 1:9).

God is outlandish and lavish in His forgiveness toward us, as proved through Jesus’ death on the cross!

This amazing forgiveness is what I have been experiencing both personally and with my husband. It is not from this world. It is supernatural! Forgiveness is a beautiful, precious gift, and it’s Christianity’s pinnacle!

When doubts and thoughts clamor at the door of your mind, deal with them! Have you asked God to forgive you, or do you just keep thinking about them? If you haven’t asked for forgiveness, do it now. If you have, meditate on the scriptures I listed above and look up more of them. I don’t know anyone who does not need to hear this good news! I hope it has been challenging and renewing to you today.

What are your thoughts on forgetting what is behind?  We want to hear from you today!

What Are You Listening To?

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My mom used to say; “turn down that rock music…your going to be deaf by the time your 30! Well, 30 seemed a really far way off back then, so I didn’t heed her wisdom. Guess what, now that I am pushing 50 I do struggle with hearing people speak.

What are the things that “pull” you, that you know really aren’t the best things you could be doing with your time, money or energy? Don’t blow it off! Slow down and pay attention to those little pricks you get in your conscience. Are you listening to news everyday that is giving you anxiety? Are you drawn to unhealthy life styles? Drinking too much alcohol or over eating? Maybe you avoid people and keep your self busy when you know you should be making some emotional connections with healthy relationships, but you are too afraid.

It is the beginning of a new year! It is the beginning of a new week! I am right here with you growing into the person I was created to be and I want to encourage you on your journey as well!! We all struggle with something. What has your ear that you know is detrimental? Like I said in/honestaromas.com/2016/12/28/the-journey-with-vigor/ last week,  we have to be able to sort out these things to have happy, healthy lives. You may not have the will power to over come struggles in your life, but there are people who can help you and God is invested in your success! It doesn’t make it easy, I know, but it is possible!

As far as aromatherapy can help in this process, Black Pepper (Piper nigrum) comes to mind! It helps reduce fear and motivate change, it reduces stagnation, and reduces fatigue, depression and low energy. It is also full of wonderful natural components that reduce inflammation, remove mucus, provide pain relief and so much more! We have several bottles in stock. Consider having a party or class and making some healing concoctions with this multi-functional  oil!

We are right here with you and we want to hear from you today!

The Journey With Vigor!

20161227_204833Good Morning!! I just thought i would “sit down and have a chat with you face to face” this morning, that is my favorite kind of conversation:-)

I went to the doctor today, and you wouldn’t know it, but I am extremely anemic. It has been some thing I have been dealing with for many years. Scary suggestions have been presented to me, both of which I will not choose. 1. Get an iron transfusion, which is extremely risky, 2. Get a blood transfusion, which is a little less risky, but risky non-the -less! I choose 3. Seek out another opinion through a Holistic Doc. who has helped some one I know deal with their anemia. I would appreciate your prayers on my journey.

So, if you know any thing about anemia, you know that energy is non existent….so why would I name this “A Journey with Vigor”? Because, I have been on an interesting journey the last few years and although I have had times of wanting to give up, I refuse to let shortcomings hold me back! I Choose to be victorious in the plans God has for my life and I choose to live a pure life with Vigor! I choose it, like I choose to love even when I don’t feel it, I choose to change, I choose to set my mind on things above. I pray that all of these choices are wrapped in a beautiful, fragrant package of gentleness!

In studying God (and aromatherapy!), I have crossed paths with such interesting people! One person is Dr. Henry Cloud (in his book form;-) and he make an acute observation about God. That if we could cultivate these 4 things of God’s personality, we would greatly improve our day to day functioning. They are;

  1. Bond with others.
  2. Separate from others.
  3. Sort out issues of good and bad.
  4. Take charge as an adult.

He goes on to say that “without the ability to perform these basic God-like functions, we can literally remain stuck for years and growth and change can elude our grasp.”

I would have to say, these are the very issues I have been learning about and growing in; up close and personal, over the last few years! It hasn’t been easy, or pretty and smooth, but I believe it is right where I am supposed to be. I invite you on it with me!!

Speaking of Journeys, reminds me of Carrier Oils!! We use a carrier oil in Aromatherapy to dilute the essential oil before it is applied,but Carrier Oils also have their own therapeutic benefits that deliver that essential oil in it’s desired application. One of my favorite carriers, and one that Honest Aromas is going to start “carrying” (haha;-) Is Trauma Oil! I make custom blends for a handful of customers now with this superb blend of oils, helpful in it’s own right./honestaromas.com/2015/08/18/trama-oil/ helps with nerve pain and inflammation and when paired with anti-inflammatory or warming oils stops pain in it’s tracks.Click on the links I have included in this blog to learn more.

I am right here with you on your journey cheering you on! I am learning, growing and changing too! Let’s be better people, with Vigor, in every way in 2017!!

 

 

 

He’s Always Been Faithful

20161028_084139Morning by morning I wake up to find The power and comfort of God’s hand in mine Season by season, I watch him amazed, In awe of the mystery of his perfect ways

All I have need of his hand will provide He’s always been faithful to me

I can’t remember one single regret In serving God only and trusting his hand I can’t remember a trial or a pain He did not recycle to bring me gain

All I have need of his hand will provide He’s always been faithful to me

This is my anthem, and this is my song The theme of the stories I’ve heard for so long God has been faithful; he will be again His loving compassion – it knows no end

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A friend sent this to me and I LoVe the song! I love the second verse;

I can’t remember one single regret in serving God only and trusting his hand. I can’t remember a trial or a pain He not recycle to bring me gain. 

The truth is, I remember many regrets of times I tried to serve my self!! But if I look back over my life, even in the most excruciating circumstances, when I followed Him, He only ever produced green ness in my life; fruit, peace of mind, joy and a clean conscious. And the times that I have had pain or trial (usually from some failure on my part), He does not waste anything. He is the ultimate Earth- Day -Celebrator, Recycle er extraordinaire!!! But even so much more when working with souls.

That line gives me the remembrance I need today to move forward in trust, casting all my anxieties on Him. He cares for us, He wants us to succeed more than any other person on the planet….. No the Universe! He is faithful even when I am not.

If you do not know this faithfulness, turn to Him today. No matter if you have been a Christian all your life, part of your life, or you are not a Christian- God, through His Son Jesus is always right there waiting with expectation for you to turn to Him.

Blessings on your week<3

Faith and Aromatherapy

Here at Honest Aromas, we like to think we offer a unique look at aromatherapy. Because we’re a business run by Christians, we believe that God’s wisdom and grace are the basis of all good things.

Because of this, we believe that we provide an interesting perspective on a good thing (aromatherapy) that doesn’t always get to be looked at from a Christian lens. While aromatherapists of all faiths and convictions are immensely helpful, intelligent, and intuitive, we are thankful for the opportunity to explore holistic health from this relitively unusual perspective.

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To us, aromatherapy is just another piece of evidence that “through everything God made, [people] can clearly see his invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature” (Romans 1:20 NLT). We believe that all creation reflects God, and there are few aspects of nature that so poignantly illustrate this as aromatherapy!

Aromatherapy, far from being a pseudoscientific study, is quite literally “plant-medicine.” Very powerful essential oils condense the medicinal qualities of plants—which God made and which people have been using for thousands of years—so that we can grow in better health in well-being! The fact that God created plants with this ability is mind-blowing: it testifies to his love and desire for healing!

We could talk all day about the spiritual parallels we draw between Christianity and aromatherapy, so don’t hesitate to ask us any questions! We love sharing as much as we can about this fascinating study.

Have a healthy week!