You Have The Ability To Change

This is the Holiday Season, it is exciting and exhilarating in many ways, but for many it is filled with anxiety and depression.

I happen to be a person who loves the notorious, Hallmark, picture- perfect, movies because they always turn out the way I want them to! But that is seldom true of real life.

When there is so much going on and so much expected, it is very easy to get overwhelmed and focus on stress. It takes intentionality to be aware of the subtle blessings in life and cultivate gratefulness, especially during times of overwhelm. But that is exactly what we need to do.

We do have the ability to change. We do not have to say yes to everything that others ask us to do and we can take extra measures to carve out self care during this bustling time of year.

Here are a few suggestions:

Be intentional about eating food that makes you feel light and healthy. Start with three days this week that you will intentionally eat well and take notice of how it makes you feel physically.

Drink more water than usual. Add some lemon, lime or cucumbers to it, for an uplifting change!

Take the first 10 minutes or more of your day and pray or journal. Focus on the things you have to be thankful for. We take for granted running water, warmth, food, technology and the ability to think.

Make the decision to stretch or exercise every morning for 15 minutes and see how you feel later on in the day because of that decision.

Break out the essential oils you have laying around and pick out 2-3 that you love! Put a few drops of each into a spray bottle, fill with water, shake well and use as a room deodorizer. Remember that most essential oils are anti-viral and anti-bacterial- so it will not just brighten your mood, it will also support your immune system!

Pick out special cards for those people in your life that you need to say, “I love you”, to. Writing is very therapeutic.

Surround your self with positive music that has encouraging lyrics.

Take a walk for 10 minutes in the fresh air.

Take a bath or hot shower. Put Epsom salt in the bottom of the tub for added stress relief. Better yet, add 3-5 drops of your favorite essential oil into the Epsom salt first. A few drops of Eucalyptus will open up the respiratory and refresh you! (In Epsom first, not straight in water as it can irritate the skin if it lays upon water alone)

Choose to say,
” I am thankful to be alive today”, even if your not feeling it, choose to focus on the gift of life.

There! Those are some ideas to jump start you and get you thinking! You have the ability to change and make this day, and everyone to follow, better than the one before!

I am right here, journeying along with you and I would love to hear from you today! Happy Holidays<3

What A Smile Can Bring

Several weeks ago I went to the store and ran into a wonderful little boy! We “met” in the area where you get a cart and his exuberance with his grandmother made me smile. He noticed me and pointed out something that was recently added to the carts for baby carriers. I engaged in his curiosity with a little response and then we went on our separate ways into the store.

After about 10 minutes I ran into him and his grandmother again. He said something like; Hey, it’s you again! And I talked with him a little bit as I was picking out herbal tea, asking him if he was being a good helper. Then I said; “hey, you have a great rest of your day!” He excitedly replied; “You have a great rest of your day too!!”…in his 4 year old voice. Running into him really brightened my morning!

A few weeks after this occurred, I was teaching at a local health event. One of the participants came up to me and said; do you recognize me? And I did, but couldn’t place where I recognized her. She told me she was “the grandmother” from the store, that memorable day, weeks before. She said her grandson liked me because I smiled at him! I loved that we had the opportunity to re connect because, I kept thinking of that little boy, Tucker! I got to meet his mother at that event and tell her what a wonderful, pure and honest, little person she is raising!!

His grandmother ended up ordering some Aromatherapy products from me that she needed to stop by my house to pick up and guess who was with her ( I knew he was going to be coming ahead of time:) He is an energetic and enthusiastic boy and it felt like we were old friends catching up for a minute!!

Don’t you love when you have those “divine moments” in life? When you know, for what ever reason, things slow down and you are supposed to meet someone? That is how I feel about Tucker. I may never see him again, but we were supposed to meet. You never know why you are at the exact place at the exact time you meet the people you do. But I have been realizing if I slow down a bit and pay attention, God has a bigger picture going on..who knows what a smile can bring?:)

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We had a loyal customer contact us over the weekend to tell us that she lent her Arthritis Pain Blend to her husband while they were traveling. She reported that, he slept soundly all night with out pain waking him up! This is one of many positive testimonies we receive at Honest Aromas!

Aromatherapy can be a great way to start implementing self-care and margin into your life. The measures you take toward health or choose not to take affect you! We care about you: Spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally and we are walking this path of wholeness with you. We want to hear from you today!

Autism, Birthdays, Mistakes and Inhalers

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My son is autistic. It has been one heck of a ride! Mostly the ride has been within myself, learning to accept, be flexible and be open to a new normal. It has taken almost fourteen years and I have by no means arrived.

 Having a birthday party for him was something I swore off a few years ago…and Oh Buddy, how I did swear!! One does not always know what is going on in that beautiful mind and if you go left when he wants to go right, watch out!  I couldn’t take any more tantrums in front of friends, leaving his friends sitting at the table because they ate their cake before he had the first bite or rude comments about the presents he didn’t like and the list is endless.  It is just too stressful….for me. Does that sound selfish? Maybe it is but I think I have a better grasp on my humanity and what I am able handle peacefully.

He started planning his party 2 months ago. I see him maturing in many ways. He has no problem communicating his need for more freedom and less parental control. I didn’t handle that very well when our oldest son communicated the same things to us at the same age, but I see my error in that now. I want to help raise confident, think for your self, respectful and God fearing men-so I can appreciate his hormones and intrinsic make up better than I used to appreciate his brothers’!

No person on earth has more tested, tried, exasperated or challenged this writer, than this particular son. He makes me want to hit the escape button on my emotional hand held and I sometimes  ponder if space from each other would’n’t be a good idea. I don’t know the answer to that but I do know, he is exposing many things within myself.

As I grow deeper in union with Christ, I have found this to be true. That the people and the situations in our lives that are cataclysmic to us in someway, are the very doors of hope that God has purposed. That can look a lot of ways, can’t it? It can look like the accident,the unplanned pregnancy, the lost dreams, the divorce, the illicit relationship, the addiction or the communication break down, just to name a few. God is standing there, purposing good through it, what ever it is. His hope and future for our good, in the pressure, in the refining and in the heat.  When you are aware of it, your eyes are opened! He wants to do something in us and through us. Ultimately, He wants us to so know how loved, accepted, forgiven and pleasing we are to Him- so that knowledge is given freely to others no matter how they behave, acknowledge or appreciate us.

I am getting ready for a big Aromatherapy event this weekend and in my busyness,  I made a mistake while blending some inhalers. I see that I am maturing a bit too. I just looked at the cartridges and asked, what shall I do with you now? Ginger, Lavender, Frankincense and Bergamot…. the blend lent itself to calming anxiety and reducing stress…perfect! I will give one to each of the special boys who are coming to the birthday party tonight and give one to my son and myself! A mistake turned into a blessing! That is what they are all intended to be. Not just for ourselves, but for everyone who surrounds us as well.

Thank you for reading, I really do appreciate it. I am right here walking this path of wholeness with you and I would love to hear from you today.

Make A Difference!

 

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This post is to encourage me as much as I hope to encourage you! I shared a sample of it yesterday on LinkedIn.

This weekend I was a vendor at a festival that , in the past, has been wildly successful. The temp had dropped about 20 degrees and all day there was a persistent, steady rain. It was quite gloomy.

For the first 2 hours I only had one customer. I know for certain God sent me that customer, because He wanted to reveal something to me in the way of perspectives. His name was Logan and  he was an amazing 5th grade young man, who wanted to buy a migraine inhaler for his mother (so thoughtful!). He said,  “she would love your business!!”, because she ran a yoga studio and likes to use Aromatherapy with yoga. He then asked me if I would like her name and number!! (Natural Net Worker!)

He told me how his dad was called in last minute to make hamburgers for this particular event, (good example of a positive attitude, dad!). He told me  how his dad played football in college, how his grandpa was pro football until he was injured and how he instead chose wrestling and loves it! (Confident, non-conformer!)  He told me he decided to check out the vendors while his dad was busy. (Showing flexibility in his own morning plans being changed.)

Through the things Logan said with his mouth and said with his body language, he completely inspired me to be my best despite the circumstances! His confidence and positivity was a stark contrast to the dismal, complaining vendors who surrounded me. This interaction with Logan encouraged me to continue to stand up, smile and bring some sunshine to the attendees through out the day, and finish strong when others were closing up shop early.

Guess what? I didn’t do so bad! My sales were down from previous years but they were definitely worth the effort of participating.  I also engaged in mutually helpful conversations and made some great contacts…including Logan’s mom!  I noticed that the vendors who were hunkered down in their seats who were just trying to stay warm, had little or no traffic. Passers by would look over at their booth, but there was no warm invite to proceed in for a closer look!

Through this interaction, I realized that all of the things I have been learning the last several years: the mind renewal, the Autism education, family dynamic counseling, therapies, the set backs, the messiness… has all just really served to make me a stronger, more positive person! I tend to look through situations now and ask God what He is doing in them! I most likely would not have had such a long conversation with such a wonderful young man (who by the way, could be a better employee at age 11, than most!) if it had been a sun-shiny, busy festival day. I definitely give thanks for that opportunity! It was my absolute joy and pleasure.

The moral is: Stay Positive despite your circumstances- there is always something to learn and some way to grow through it.  There is also another moral: I can tell Logan is well loved and cared for- parenting is a tough job and it is never too late to start over with your kids! No one holds more influence over them than you!  #makeadifference #there’sonlyoneyou

I am right here with you walking this path of wholeness and I would love to hear from you today!

Honest Aromas is Expanding!

 

 

 

 

Hello Everyone! I am very excited to share that I have been on another personal growth journey. Lately I have been working toward my Certification as a Spiritual Life Coach and have obtained my first Certificate through the American Association of Christian Counselors!

This is a motivating time for me and I wanted to share it with all of you, my friends who have walked my journey with me! I look forward to shifting what I currently do as an Aromatherapist, to be available to walk others through their times of uncertainty and light each step of my client’s path, to the life they were created to live! I will use Aromatherapy in my Coaching practice as an option,  or a method, of creating much needed margin in my client’s life, as well as reducing  transitional stress.

I will still be available for Aromatherapy Services, like I always have been, to offer the personalized aromatherapy products and education that my customers have come to expect from Honest Aromas!

I have been working on an improved website to tie all of this together, as I continue my education, to better communicate who I am and what my passion is. I love to engage in conversations, build relationships and offer others hope as they walk through confusing times of transition.  I have had many in the community of faith, friends, family, counselors and a life coach help me through the dark times of my life and I want to offer that same support to others!!

 

” This isn’t the end of your story. It is the first chapter of  your new novel.”

-julia

 

Thank you for always being so supportive and kind and thank you for cheering me on to the next chapter! I am right here walking this path of wholeness with you and would love to hear from you today!

Check out my new website:

juliaallman.com